Leave-of-Absence

If my online friendships atrophies as my time away from the web dwindles—that will be fine, my health is first. 

Friendships DO NOT disintegrate.

Why is it when you know someone pretty well— know their secret per sé, the friendship deteriorates?

I was hurt— yes, *was*. 

I thought why should I be hurt, it was only an online friend. 

I was hurt because I got too attached, emotionally. Loving the entire family. 

A christian, a volunteer, a community auxiliary person, a family person——

one with a big heart. 

Though no one is perfect. 

[I don't judge, though I get judged sometimes— not really sure why but I do.]

Friendships only disintegrate due to addictions.

[Whenever you're addicted to any behavior— alcohol, drugs, womanizing, internet-contacts, etc.

You're not emotionally available with your life, your family...

•Delilah (radio host) 

 Addiction disconnects you from reality. You're not only hurting yourself but you're hurting those around you— family; children, significant-other (loved ones). 

*So true. Unfortunately, people don't snap out of it until it's too late.]

X transmogrified into someone else—a voyeurism with his fetishism.

And… Individual Y is red-kryptonite to the aforementioned (X).

Jack Giambanco's dream in reality.

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Created by Jack Giambanco. 

We need peace, love and unity in this world. 

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How do you deal with people who only contact you when they need a favor?

Most people are self-absorbed; it just is what it is.  Relationships wax and wane -if you don't want to help, don't help.  If you do, then do.  When our self-interests collide and overlap - ah, that can be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

Friendships develop from good conversations, shared interests and shared experiences. Frequently, friendships begin because one person needs something from someone else; that's pretty natural.  But there are boundaries that need to be set regarding what's expected out of those relationships. 

I like it when people ask me to help them; often it means that they respect me and my opinion enough to request it, and I appreciate that.  Sometimes, however, they can act like succubi - just before they wrap their vacuum-cupped tentacles around you and smother you in the fuzzle that is their lives, preventing you from being able to breathe let alone get angry and burnt out on their drama, you need to tell them - oh, sorry, I'm busy.  

It doesn't happen that often to me, because, frankly, I am a lonely pathetic person who needs positive reinforcement to my fragile and wussy old ego all the time, and so will do pretty much anything that someone - especially someone that I consider a friend - asks me to, if it's all possible for me to try to do and so long as it doesn't involve some kind of compromise to my integrity.  I will try to do what I can, sometimes even if they don't ask.

Except, occasionally, call them back, until, whoops, it's too late to get to that favor they'd requested.  Passive-aggressive you say?  Who, moi? Nay, just oh so busy!

Source: https://www.quora.com/How-do-you-deal-with-people-who-only-contact-you-when-they-need-a-favor?utm_content=buffer740d2&utm_medium=social&utm_source=plus.google.com&utm_campaign=buffer 

Comments: 

• My approach would be very much like your own. I am always prepared to help anyone, and certainly don't do something because of what I may get 'in return' but there does need to be some element of reciprocity.

I think there are two kinds of people, those who give and take and those who just want to take.

I think the following quote sums up, for me, what friendship means:-

"I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar." Robert Brault

And as Marlene Dietrich put it:-

"It's the friends you can call up at 4a.m. that matter."

• "It sounds like these people are not so much friends as opportunistic acquaintances."

Quotes to ponder

Someone I loved once gave me a box of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift. 

-Mary Oliver 

"As I interpret the passage, baring any other reference, it seems to mean that someone has given their loved one a great deal of pain and personal trauma. Upon reflection, however, the speaker realizes that in learning to deal with the pain they have become a much more enlightened and nuanced person, overall, better off for having had the experience." -Unknown 

I read this and think of myself. I'm a patient and a caretaker to my mom. Presently, my *life* is on hold— will all my pain ever get better before I have no life to live? 

Peter Shankman's Recipe:

Easy: brown a pound of ground turkey with onions, peppers, and mushrooms. Add a jar of tomato sauce. Ten minutes in the pan. Spread a box of cream cheese on a casserole dish. Pour the turkey stuff onto it. Add cheddar cheese over it. Then add mozzarella cheese. Bake for 15 minutes or until the crust bubbles. Then take two long rolls of bread. Slice at the ends, scoop the bread out, and spoon the casserole into the holes. Brush butter, garlic, and parsley flakes on top of the bread. Add more mozzarella cheese on top. Bake eight more minutes. Slice, serve.

Good day, always.

Today is a good day—

*any day* above ground is a great day in fact.

When it seems like you have no friends— something unexpected happens, and you then realize that you *do* have (friends). 

Have a wonderful day!

ღ(ツ)ღ

Live Life

She's probably trapped living a life that isn't her choice... because of life's circumstances. Someone like this needs spiritual guidance, and/or a GREAT friend. 

I say, live with passion and when life throws you lemons...make lemonade! Happiness is Fleeting! 

Overall, it's best living life happy than miserable. 

Everyone has a black cloud over them sometimes, but one has to focus on the silver lining... it's beautiful. 

LIFE is Precious! 

"Tranquility"

Life. . .

Just A Reminder by @petershankman

Just a reminder -Going through rough shit doesn't mean you're weak, it just means you're going through rough shit. If you feel overwhelmed, talk to someone. A counselor, a clergy, a friend, even me. It gets better, and it does improve, even if it doesn't feel like it will right now. One year ago the world lost a comic genius to the devastating effects of depression.
There is help out there for all of us, and it truly can and will get better.
Please - Talk to someone. 
And worth repeating, the number for the suicide hotline in America is 800-273-TALK.

Let's take care of each other.

Peter 

Follow @petershankman  on Twitter.

*As I am struggling myself, it does help to talk. 

The Clown's Prayer

Lord, as I stumble through this life, help me to create more laughter than tears, dispense more happiness than gloom, spread more cheer than despair. Never let me become so indifferent that I will fail to see the wonder in the eyes of a child or the twinkle in the eyes of the aged. Never let me forget that my total effort is to cheer people, make them happy and forget at least for a moment all the unpleasant things in their lives. And, Lord, in my final moment, may I hear You whisper: “When you made My people smile, you made Me smile.”

—The Clown’s Prayer

Something to ponder

[by my IRL friend--JG] 
"We really do not want to embrace relationships that does not reflect back the same emotions we feel. If we try to do that expecting the person to change, then we are heading to nothing more than frustration, anger, resentment, and sadness with feelings of no self worth.

When all along it is simply you both are not meant to be friends, and need to simply walk different paths in life."

"The second you stop caring about things that bring you down is the second you start living." 

Sharing— About Ms. Darian...

From Geoff Notkin (sharing)— ©2015
Ssssssh! Don't wake the lion . . .

When I was a teeny little boy, approximately the size of a newt, the first song I fell in love with was The Tokens' "The Lion Sleeps Tonight." I listened to my mom's crackly 45 hundreds of times in a row until both my parents went completely mad. Decades later, the incandescent vocals of guest soprano Anita Darian rival a Theremin in perfect, soaring clarity and remain the single most beautiful thing I've ever heard committed to vinyl in my entire life. Unofficially (not another lawsuit, please), I've always felt they influenced the theme from original "Star Trek." The stunning Ms. Darian left our telluric dimension on my birthday (Feb. 1) this year, but she will live in my heart, always. Give this your full and undivided attention for 2 minutes and 41 seconds (no cats, kids, texts, neighbors, car problems, Vimeo, Twitter, falling meteorites) and your ears will fly with delight.

#‎TheTokens‬ ‪#‎LionSleepsTonight‬ ‪#‎GreatMusic‬ ‪#‎RockNRoll‬ ‪#‎AnitaDarian‬‪#‎music‬ ‪#‎history‬ ‪#‎StarTrek‬
Anita Darian, a Singer With an Eclectic Range, Dies at 87 http://nyti.ms/1FhZvVt

Worse feeling...

"The worst feeling ever... No matter how old you get: rejection."
May 5, 2015 ANM–CyberDust 

It could even be a friends rejection. Worse feeling—ever!

I don't know till when will I feel this hurt inside, time will only tell. 

As they say, time heals all wounds—although scars always remain.

ღ Be kind, always. Have courage. ღ

Life: friends, frenemies, acquaintances...

"The hardest thing is not talking to someone you used to talk to everyday."
-iRealFrankOcean

Dear Lord, I thank You for this day.

I thank You for my being able to see

and to hear this morning!

I'm blessed because You are

a forgiving God and

an understanding God.

You have done so much for me

and You keep on blessing me.

Forgive me this day for everything

I have done, said or thought

that was not pleasing to you.

I ask now for Your forgiveness.

Please keep me safe

from all danger and harm.

Help me to start this day

with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude.

Let me make the best of each and every day

to clear my mind so that I can hear from You.

Please broaden my mind

that I can accept all things.

Let me not whine and whimper

over things I have no control over.

And give me the best response

when I'm pushed beyond my limits.

I know that when I can't pray,

You listen to my heart.

Continue to use me to do Your will.

Continue to bless me that I may be

a blessing to others.

Keep me strong that I may help the weak...

Keep me uplifted that I may have

words of encouragement for others.

I pray for those that are lost

and can't find their way.

I pray for those that are misjudged

and misunderstood.

I pray for those who

don't know You intimately.

I pray for those that don't believe.

But I thank You that I believe

that God changes people and

God changes things.

I pray for all my sisters and brothers.

For each and every family member

in their households.

I pray for peace, love and joy

in their homes; that they are out of debt

and all their needs are met.

I pray that every eye that reads this

knows there is no problem, circumstance,

or situation greater than God.

Every battle is in Your hands for You to fight.

I pray that these words be received

into the hearts of every eye that sees it

in Jesus'  name.  Amen!

God Bless ! ! ! ! !

Just repeat this phrase and see how God moves!!

God I love you and I need you,

come into my heart, please.

#TECH -Backing Up with Verizon Cloud by @tommytrc

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Today for TommyLog TECH I want to talk about Verizon’s consumer grade cloud storage solution, appropriately named Verizon Cloud.

Before I dig into that assignment, let me briefly explain what “the cloud” actually means. The cloud is very ambiguous term for server access and storage that lives somewhere (a place few care to visit) and that's only accessible via the Internet. So your mobile, desktop, and laptops can all access this massive networks of storage and services anywhere you are, worldwide.

Verizon Cloud is just that, a backup and syncing storage solution where your contacts, photos, videos, music, and documents, even your call logs and texts, are stored. The app loads onto your IOS or Android devise, available from Google Play or the iTunes App store. Verizon Cloud also has a desktop version of their app compatible with Windows XP, Vista, Windows 7 & 8 (32 and 64 bit) versions, Mac (OSX 10.5 or greater). Forget your laptop or mobile device and still want to access your stuff? Simply find a computer connected to the internet and log onto verizonwireless.com/cloud and you have access to all your storage.

One great thing about this service is that when you move to a new phone or device, you just download one app, log in with your credentials, and your saved content will begin to be restored based on your download speed of your network. Another feature that I like about Verizon Cloud is that it defaults to only syncing via WIFI as to not use up all your cellular data. This can be overridden if you desire, but be careful, with the 25 GB Verizon Cloud as part of The More Everything Plan, you can max out your monthly data pretty easily.

Verizon cloud apps work fairly seamless with one small exception. The IOS version does not backup automatically. Instead you get a notification which alerts you to initiate a backup. Not good. I’ve been told that the next version of Verizon Cloud for IOS will include automatic background backups. The android version is just “set it and forget it”, backing up in the background based on the time you set. Slick!

I have added Verizon Cloud to my backup and syncing strategy and so should you.

Verizon Cloud is 100% Tommy Approved!

For more information on how to sign up for The More Everything Plan and get 25 GB Verizon Cloud storage for yourself, http://www.verizonwireless.com/wcms/c... 

[DISCLAIMER — I'm one of the cool kids who has been asked to play with and test technology for Verizon. They asked me test and share my thoughts. All my words are original and my own.]

#FB Friend Matrix

My years on Facebook. #‎FacebookIs10‬

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